People don’t know what they don’t know. This brings out their frustrations. You rarely change things by defending and fighting the existing way you do things. Sometimes you know what you need to do, but don’t know how to do it.
Arguably the biggest frustrations come when the graphs start turning down and you can’t cope with what needs to be done. Frustrations also occur when you are feeling disappointed. Frustrations are often associated with expressions of disbelief and anger which can be unhelpful.
Frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to anger and disappointment, it arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfilment of individual expectations. The greater the obstruction, and the greater the will, the greater the frustration. Things are what they are, without interference from you and it can arouse conflict if you try to change what already exists. Frustrations are often associated with expectations and disappointments with unexpected outcomes.
Some of the biggest causes of frustrations
- Your future direction is out of focus and so is your life.
- Inability to achieve chosen goals and aspirations.
- Financial insecurity.
- Poor relationships at home or at work.
- Not able to work to your strengths and what you like.
- Setting the wrong objectives, strategies and actions.
- Not caring enough about the customers.
- Lack of confidence can quickly bring about frustration.
- Not understanding modern marketing practices.
- Managing constant change.
- Poor health and well-being restricting your progress.
- Conflict in relationships is all too common today.
- Expecting people to react in a certain way can cause enormous frustrations.
- Poor understanding of modern technology and how to utilise it.
- External forces or environment.
Following are some actions that may be of help
- Make a decision about what you really want and action the steps to accomplish it.
- Build a new business model that makes the old problems and frustrations obsolete.
- Update your Business Plan, including the budget.
- Dedicate yourself to understanding the fundamentals of financial matters, become financially savvy,
- Understand your passion, your strengths and your ‘why’ you do what you do.
- Ensure you have sound workable objectives, strategies and actions.
- Build solid working relationships with family, customers and colleagues.
- You can’t stop change, so learn how to cope and manage it more effectively.
- Seek advice from people with practical experience, people who know what to do.
- Visit your doctor, eat well, exercise regularly and get good rest.
Start by adjusting your expectations of other people. Frustrations generally occur when people fail to meet an expectation. The expectation may be reasonable, but often it is not. The best way to handle the fact that humans are imperfect is to keep expectations related to what is possible.
Keep in mind that you too, are not always perfect or consistent, which can also make situations worse. Learning about human psychology can go a long way to understanding why people do what they do.
“Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success”. Dale Carnegie
“Things never go the way you expect them to. That’s both the joy and frustration in life. I’m finding as I get older that I don’t mind, though. It’s the surprises that tickle me the most, the things you don’t see coming”. Michael Stuhlbarg