Why is there so much struggle in our lives and our businesses? There is a saying attributed to Ernest Hemingway, “that the first draft of everything is shit”, which, of all the things Hemingway has written, applies most powerfully to what most people experience today. Bad things can happen over and over again. But many actions are in your control.
At one time, Hemingway had no fewer than 47 alternate endings to one of his books. It was a window into how much he struggled to get it right. The pages, which now sit in the Hemingway Collection, show Hemingway writing the same passages repeatedly. Sometimes the wording was nearly identical; sometimes, whole parts were discarded, never seen by anyone. Then, in the different drafts, he would experiment with other versions.
The world can be a ruthless and harsh place. A Bible verse in which Hemingway opens another one of his books outlines: “One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth forever…The sun also ariseth, and the sun goeth down, and hasteth to the place where he arose”.
So much of what happens to us in life is out of our control. We lose people we love. We put ourselves out there and put every bit of our effort into something, only to be left with negative feelings when it fails. So many become bogged down by their insecurities, which lead to the struggles continuing when a little hope and a dream could have overcome them.
So the big question to answer is, how will you respond?
- Know that others struggle; you can learn how they overcome them.
- Feel your struggles and go beyond the emotions.
- Please don’t be sad, be proud of what you do and how you do it.
- Enjoy the small things in life and be grateful for what you already have.
- Change your diet, do more exercise and get more sleep.
- Engage an advisor or mentor with practical knowledge and experience.
- Don’t be a loner; ask your family, friends, employees and even your customers.
- Look for someone you can help. Know that if you help others, they will help you.
- Don’t be ashamed of what you’ve been through or your struggles.
- Make a plan. Action orientation overcomes most struggles. Celebrate all the small wins.
A community or business without advisors pushing new ideas and opportunities will maintain the status quo and continue the struggles. Struggles and roadblocks make us stronger. Opportunity follows struggle. It follows effort, it follows hard work, but it doesn’t come before.
“Another reason people struggle is a lack of systems, tools and processes which they genuinely believe in and are relying on wishing and hoping for better outcomes. With a new day, new beginnings and new possibilities await you”. Peter Sergeant
“Release the hidden value and get on top of your struggles by making a conscious effort to change your habits and routines”. Peter Sergeant