Reality checks building better futures

Reality requires action to change.

What is your current reality?

The reality is often hard for many people to accept. Close your eyes and imagine yourself building a better future, what do you see yourself doing and when would you like to do it. When you look at your current reality, do you feel there’s something missing in your life or you’re always waiting for something to arrive? This blog is about helping you have a reality check on your aspirations.

You’re waiting for the future to arrive because you think it will be better there. The problem is in order to have the future you would like, something has to change. If you’re waiting for luck to bring it to you, forget it, it won’t happen. You have to make it happen, that is the reality.

Good futures are built one brick at a time

Some people don’t worry about the future because there’s not much they can do about it, it will come despite anything they might do. They think all they have to do is stay where they are and deal with whatever comes in the best way they can. While other people are setting themselves up so they have an income for life. Once they achieve this, they don’t ever have to work again, unless they want to. Even if you’re current reality is deep in debt, there is always something you can do about it.

You only create stress and anxiety when you have fearful thoughts about the future, based on your current reality. All the ‘What if’ scenarios emerge in your imagination, regrets about the past come back to haunt you, and that feeling of well-being becomes a distant memory. You all know through experience that when you lose yourself in an enjoyable moment, time stands still and your mind clears. So in order to think, reflect and plan your better future, pick your moments.

Understand the feelings about your future reality now?

Even if your present situation is challenging, you can alter reality. By being mindful of what is possible, you become more focused on the future and more likely to take the necessary actions. Don’t fight against your present reality, just acknowledge it and develop a new mindset to move on, you will find it much less stressful. You will always face some challenging and stressful situations because they will always be part of your life, you just need to confront them.

Any concern about the future is an illusion as it has not happened yet. Anxiety therefore only exists in your thoughts and you have the power to change those thoughts. Few negative emotions will be experienced when you are truly focused on a better future.

The reality is, your past is not where your potential is. At any time you can choose to liberate your future. Learning to live in the present moment is exciting. Discarding the negative aspects of your past allows you more room for positive thoughts and hope. Being more positive helps you to forget, or at least minimise bad situations about your past.

Do a reality check, what’s holding you back?

Building a better future is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design now. I urge you to reach out to your future. While it has been on your mind, it is not something you should ignore. You don’t want to be looking back with regret anymore. Clearly, establish what is holding you back and take action today.

You have an old mindset

Getting into the mindset of living in the present is an important reality for your future. Your mindset needs to adopt the concept of living in the present and being clearly focused on the future. You need to stop paying attention to distressing, emotionally or harmful events that happened in your past. Doing this will help you to achieve your goals for the better future you seek.

Lack of personal belief

Continually dwelling on your past and the bad situations that occurred lower your belief level. Without belief, nothing much ever happens for the right reasons. If you are unhappy with the way your future is unfolding, you need to start changing something or it’s going to stay the same until your belief levels rise.

You have no confidence

It is your mindset, tied up with your current reality and core beliefs, that undermines your self-confidence. You may feel something has been missing your entire life because a lack of confidence will always emphasise the downside of failure. You always feel guilty and have doubts at the back of your mind. By focusing on the positive aspects of your future you can improve your confidence which will help replace your negative thoughts with more positive ones and you will start to have better outcomes. If you are unable to do this, seek professional advice.

All you see are obstacles

Seeing obstacles in your way is a great demotivator. The reality may be that you have a lot of obstacles to overcome. However, on close analysis, the reality of what they actually are can change, along with your thinking.  Most obstacles are not as bad as you originally thought. In many cases, obstacles can turn into opportunities if you take the time to analyse them.

Past experiences are holding you back

People can easily become trapped in their past, especially in their bad experiences. It’s easier sometimes to say you don’t care what happens than to explain the reasons why you want to build a better future. Your past has only one purpose and that is to learn from it. If you maintain the status quo, you will never grow.

Running away from your problems is a race you’ll never win

But you can minimise their impact on your better future. If you always do what you have always done, nothing will change. Face your problems and start striving for a better future today. Remember it is the bad times that help you to appreciate the good times if we have learned from them.

Afraid of change is often the reality

Afraid that your ideas might not work out? How will you know what is possible if you remain afraid and fail to take the actions required to bring about the necessary changes? Good things happen when you stop taking the wrong actions. You may need to change your vision, objectives and strategies about your future. Keep in mind tomorrow is a new beginning, with no mistakes or failures in it.

Leaving family and friends

If you need to move you may be miserable leaving family and friends. This can be hard but, with modern transport and communications, nowhere near as hard as it used to be. If you don’t move away to pursue your dreams it can destroy you. This issue needs thinking through, so the new reality can move forward and stand the test of time.

Too many excuses

A person who really wants to build a better life away from their current reality will find a way and those who don’t will just find excuses. Standing up for what you want and believe in, regardless of the consequences, takes courage. It is not only your abilities that build a better future, but it’s also your choices. Don’t let excuses become a powerful de-motivator that locks you into your current reality.

Quotable Quotes

“First comes thought; then organisation of that thought, into ideas and plans; then transformation of those plans into reality. The beginning, as you will observe, is in your imagination”. Napoleon Hill

“Focus on reality and keep doing the things that really work well for you”. Peter Sergeant


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